Over the past two months, Awaken has been deeply engaged in the nursing home project—so much so that we lost track of time. These six weeks have been profoundly meaningful, spent in the company of our elderly friends, whose combined ages exceed 750 years. In this journey, they have shown us the richness that comes with growing older, offering wisdom and warmth in ways we never expected.
While it is natural that their physical abilities have declined, their spirits remain strong and resilient. As we guided them through songs with movement, I witnessed their determination to stretch themselves, both physically and emotionally. Their warm smiles after each effort spoke volumes about their perseverance.
As our group deepened in connection, we began to truly hear the heartbeat of the elderly. Their stories are deeply inspiring. Many still carry dreams, and despite physical limitations, some expressed a desire to help others—offering emotional support and a listening ear. Their generosity of spirit reminds me that there are many ways to give, no matter one’s circumstances.
One theme has stood out unmistakably in my time with them: relationships. They cherish their friendships and hold deep love for their children and families. Yet, living in a nursing home, many express longing—missing their loved ones while treasuring the moments they do get to share, especially during the Chinese New Year.
Reflecting on what truly matters in life, I find myself returning to a truth that has been reinforced through this experience: relationships matter. Last year, I made a commitment to spend more time with my parents and family, and while I have honored that, I have come to realize that true connection is about more than just time—it requires nurturing.
Nurturing relationships means making sacrifices, setting aside personal priorities, and sometimes facing inconvenience. It means navigating differences, learning to communicate in ways that allow for deeper understanding. It is not always easy. In fact, it can be challenging and even exhausting.
But as I sit with the lessons the elderly have shared, I ask myself: if love, connection, and belonging are at the core of a meaningful life, then isn’t nurturing our relationships one of the most valuable things we can do?
So, I encourage you—reach out to someone today. Call your parents, visit an old friend, or simply be present with a loved one. Small actions, done consistently, build the foundation of meaningful relationships. Time passes quickly, and opportunities to show love don’t last forever. Let’s not wait until it’s too late to cherish those who matter most.
Written by Fion Liew on 28 February 2025.
